Transpersonal Psychology and the feminin.

 

I have come to a point where I feel the need to redefine what Transpersonal Psychology is and means to me. It seems that the area of study is not completely encompassed by any particular writer; Ken Wilber, Carl Jung, Stanislav Grof. Each of these theorists represents specific viewpoints within transpersonal psychology, which makes TP a field much like politics or art, where many viewpoints co-exist.

Nor is transpersonal psychology defined by a specific subject matter, such as meditation or altered states or spiritual emergency, although these are some of its topics. It still is relatively new field, with many different formulations and syntheses, and it has much unexplored territory.

The transpersonal perspective is not a unified system of thought, it seems more fluid and flexible than that.

Transpersonal theory seems to go beyond specific viewpoints to articulate a comprehensive psycho-spiritual vision of life and its unfolding[1]. In this sense it affords a wider perspective for all the learning of conventional psychology and recasts psychology into a new mold and spiritual framework.

 

When we discuss transpersonal psychology we are looking at the psyche from a new perspective.

I agree with the thinkers we discussed, that we live in a time where a new worldview is emerging and spreading with increasing force, touching all areas of culture, thought and society.

Humankind seems on the verge of reaching and conquering yet another holon (in Wilber’s terms), perceiving reality in a wider perspective than it did before.

In this course we encountered for example the shift in consciousness we (humans) are experiencing. We seem to awaken to a growing awareness that our lives are interconnected and that our world is – beyond the material – in essence composed of (events in) consciousness.

We discussed the major paradigm shift (in process/progress) away from the traditional scientific, materialistic worldview toward a more holistic, spiritual perspective.

Recognizing gaps in our western ways of knowing we turned to the eastern cultures, in which fellow human beings developed other ways of dealing with life and being human. Transpersonal Psychology integrated many methods and insights found in eastern traditions (some thinkers define TP as a merging of traditional psychology with eastern wisdom, but I do not agree).

 

When we dare to acknowledge that we cannot proceed with our western “modern experiment” (in Schumacher’s terms - without religion), we can come to the conclusion that it is indeed time to drastically challenge our way of relating to this world.

It is of utmost importance to realize that  a shift in worldview will drastically change how we create our world: if we want to transform our world (to make it a better place), we should be looking at ways to change our perspective.

 

One way of doing that is to watch what is happening in the world:

What kind of processes are already “running their course”.

What shifts and transformations are actually happening?

Where are the “war-zones” where new visions are fighting (or simply replacing) old traditions?

 

We sidestepped into the field of physics where quantum physicists have transformed our picture of the world. We studied what quantum physics came up with after exploring reality from “their” new perspectives.  It is of enormous importance to compare notes and share insights in this endeavor to learn to explore what is.

We saw that the theories and models developed in quantum physics and transpersonal psychology – totally different, and not really related disciplines -  have striking similarities.

 

I think however, that we should look beyond these new theories – the theories are in this quest of secondary value. We should be exploring new ways of looking at reality, new ways of experiencing and knowing reality.

And in this Transpersonal Psychology and Quantum Physics are amazingly on the same track…              

In this last learning module we are looking at another sphere were transformations are taking place: the traditional constructs about male and female, masculine and feminine are shifting towards a new beyond gender vision of human beings.

We will talk about the emerging feminine that (who..) seems to invite us to make use of her practical skills and spiritual qualities. She has much to give and seems quite fed up with being suppressed, ignored and neglected.

Any new worldview demands from us to integrate feminine ways of relating to the world into our primarily masculine oriented worldview (my last chapter in this LM will be devoted to that theme).

 

In my view these developments/transformations are all sprouts from the same root; announcing a shift towards/into a new holon in which we have become more and more conscious of new layers and deeper dimensions of our reality.

In our traditional way of learning and knowing we made theories, methodologies and technologies. These were all more or less designed to grasp reality in order to control, and where possible change or manipulate it.  We have for a long time attempted to create models that represent the environment/reality in such a way as to maximally simplify our problem-solving.

Now we seem to be invited to let go of our models, theories and constructs as the way to organize our experience of reality. We seem en masse to be trying a different approach. We feel drawn to experience reality in a more direct, more conscious way.

It is my believe that we have come to a stage in which we start to finally see that our reality is of a much larger order than we ever imagined. We seem to awaken to the realization that it is time for us to realize that we are not alone, we are not separate beings and certainly not the masters of the universe.

 

We humans need (to learn) to be willing to listen to what “what is” asks from us, and create our world accordingly.

 

I saw Yentl again this week, the lyrics seem to fit here:

 

Music: Michel Legrand
Lyrics: Alan and Marilyn Bergman
Premiere: 1983

 

 

 

PRAYER
God, our merciful father,
I’m wrapped in a robe of light,
Clothed in your glory
That spreads its wings over my soul.
Maybe I be worthy
Amen.

 

There’s not a morning I begin without
A thousand questions running through my mind,
That I don’t try to find the reason and the logic
In the world that God designed.
The reason why
a bird was given wings,
If not to fly and praise the sky
With every song it sings.
What’s right or wrong,
Where I belong
Within the scheme of things...
And why have eyes that see
And arms that reach
Unless you’re meant to know
There’s something more?
If not to hunger for the meaning of it all,
Then tell me what a soul is for?

Why have the wings
Unless you’re meant to fly?
And tell me please, why have a mind
If not to question why?
And tell me where-
Where is it written what it is
I’m meant to be, that I can’t dare
To have the chance to pick the fruit of every tree,
Or have my share of every sweet-imagined possibility?
Just tell me where, tell me where?
If I were only meant to tend the nest,
Then why does my imagination sail
Across the mountains and the seas,
Beyond the make-believe of any fairy tale?
Why have the thirst if not to drink the wine?
And what a waste to have a taste
Of things that can't he mine?
And tell me where, where is it written what it is
I'm meant to be, that I can't dare-
To find the meanings in the mornings that I see,
Or have my share of every sweet-imagined possibility?
Just tell me where- where is it written?
Tell me where-
Or if it's written anywhere?

 

 

Qualities of knowing and relating to the world.

In my view the shifts in paradigms and worldviews we discussed do have a common ground in being initiated by a new way of relating to reality; a new way of coming to knowledge.

This is what I think quantum physics has in common with transpersonal psychology. Not only are the theories and constructs both disciplines come up with interesting to compare, it is their ways of approaching their subject and coming to knowledge that share the same qualities.

 

It is interesting to look at these qualities:

The openness to look beyond existing theories,

realizing that they are just the “what-we-made-of-it” aspect of reality and in that sense subjective, situation/context-dependent and relative. Searching for the whole beyond instead of focusing on the details

Quantum physicists were looking for the bigger picture, the absolute level behind the level we can observe and measure. They were willing to look beyond matter to see a reality underlying our physical world, the quantum reality.

This is a giant step. To let go of the known and shift attention to what goes on beyond it   to realize we can actually get glimpses of the flow by watching the individual waves – to envision the parts of the iceberg beneath the water and realize its interconnection with and origin in the sea.

Transpersonal psychology makes a similar shift. It also looks beyond our five sensed personal psyche, to find a dimension that could explain many phenomena that could not be explained in any scientific way. It takes the meta position. It listens to an inner knowing that intuits a transpersonal, spiritual dimension underlying our psychological reality.

In their quest for truth both disciplines have opened up to look beyond the boundaries and limitations that traditional theories posed. 

 

The flexibility to see reality and our knowledge of it as an ongoing, fluid process.          

The realization that we and our knowing are continuously developing, growing and evolving.

Transpersonal thinkers (and quantum physicists)  realized that our relationship with reality (and thus our coming to knowledge about it) is an ongoing process in which observer and observed are both part of the same field and consequently inescapably interconnected and interrelated. 

The traditional language and terminology had to be re-considered and  re-defined with the willingness to evolve it by continuously tasting and weighting it against what was experienced.

 

The willingness to accept that knowledge actively interferes with our world and its subjects and objects. Knowledge itself could even be viewed as a living thing with the ability to actively pursuing goals of its own.  

This seems a paradox: this new way of looking forces us to actively participate and adapt to the evolving knowledge, yet asks also for our willingness to let go of our “ control” over reality and surrender to its process.

These thinkers were willing to accept that they did not know, probably could never know, and certainly could not absolutely know everything there was to know.

This seems a small step, but it is not. Maybe it was this sense of humility and reference, a more or less conscious surrender to a larger order of things that made the quantum/transpersonal shift in perspective  possible. In accepting that man, separate as individual and seemingly autonomous as species, is actually “just” part of a much larger whole, called for a major shift of consciousness[2]. The interrelatedness and interconnectedness of everything - specifically of man with his world/reality in the transpersonal perspective  -  is a basic truth,  also in the quantum perspective.

 

Compassion. The heartfelt willingness/urge to take responsibility for ourselves, the world and for all the creatures in it. The commitment to life and nature that stems from the realization that all is one.

I don’t exactly know if this is a quantum thing too, but transpersonal psychology definitely is a discipline where the heart – compassion – is considered a (the?) valuable source of knowing.

Inner knowing and creative thinking are in. Intuition and synchronicity count. Visions and dreams are taken as serious as empirical data.

Transpersonal psychology uses archetypal symbolism and the “language” of myth to interpret what the unconscious is telling/asking us. Bioenergetics and meditation have become accepted tools to further the dialogue between the personal and transpersonal worlds we seem to inhabit.

 

These “new” qualities of knowing are in my view the most important aspects of the transpersonal perspective and the transpersonal psychology it is giving birth to. The willingness to see what is  in a different way, from an altogether different point of view.

Where we were looking and defining our reality from a more or less static, passive scientific model, this new perspective invites us to open up to a interactive, adaptive new knowledge.

Instead of looking as outsiders or separate observers at a world of space, time and matter, we are challenged to look at it from within, as participants in a ongoing process of creation. Instead of taking pictures we are learning to direct real-time movies, instead of getting our information from a personal library we are exploring the internet.

Only when we are willing to see reality from these new, fluid perspective our man-made constructs will loosen their grip. Then we will be able to transform our worldview and with it our world into a better place.

It is amazing how indeed this shift in perspective is noticeable in all areas, on all levels...

Even in transpersonal  psychology itself.

In earlier stages TP used to focus mainly on the “high end” of human experience, especially those spiritual and psychic experiences that always mystified humans. More recently, there has been a shift in the transpersonal perspective towards how the spiritual is expressed in everyday life.

It has become clear that the transpersonal must include the whole - not just the high end of human experience - but the very personal realm of ordinary consciousness as well.

Transpersonal psychologists seem to have a task in today’s world. They are equipped to look beyond the models and limiting constructs we humans have of our reality. Transpersonal psychologists are in a good position to commit themselves  in a compassionate way to truly participate in the emergence of a new worldview.  Which finally brings me to the subject matter of this learning module: the transpersonal feminine.

 

Transpersonal Psychology and the Feminine[3]

The archetype of gender is a factor in the construction of human symbolic language and as such a way in which we perceive and speak of our world and ourselves in it . In other words: the archetype of gender genderizes our perception, our knowledge of reality.

The attribution of highest value to the masculine gender has been so pervasive and insistent in what we know of human history, that men have become identified with the masculine gender, so that the masculine gender is the central point of reference in practically every field of human endeavor[4].

As we were discussing the emerging new worldviews and our need for major shifts in consciousness it is relevant to take the developments of feminism and the growing appreciation of feminine principles into account.

 

Although it takes an effort not to identify with personal gender, I think it is important to realize that we are discussing transpersonal gender/archetypal experience here.

We take the term “transpersonal” literally in the sense of beyond  the personal, across the personal  and also in the sense of underlying the personal; being of a larger order than the personal (see LMI). Not the place or time to discuss what women or men do or need to do on a personal level.

Now we are looking at the bigger picture of a new worldview and new ways to relate to and know reality.

In this exploration one of the most important aspects of the archetypal feminine is the desire to translate spiritual abstractions into daily life. In other words, the feminine principle stands for the living of knowledge – this is the archetypal feminine way to gain wisdom (represented by Sophia).

The transpersonal feminine is interested in process, it trusts this process and has the faith to surrender to living it right here and in the now.

The archetypal feminine is about being  (whereas the masculine is (more) about doing).

In archetypal symbolism it is the feminine which receives the spirit in material form.   

Another important quality of the feminine is the heart – the feeling-functions (in addition to the masculine mind and thinking-functions). Intuition is ascribed to the feminine and the shadow/underworld of the unconscious is also much her domain.

The feminine (Gaia principle) is earth, nature, the cycles of live, the body itself. The sacredness of matter and the almost heretic insight that God is in everyman (and not in churches or religions) are typically feminine.

 

When we agree that the western world has been dominated by the masculine principle, and we see a transforming shift in perspective in multiple and various areas, combined with the emerging of the long neglected/ignored feminine principle, I feel invited to look at the possible relation between these  phenomena.

Is the transpersonal feminine the “missing” experience in our consciousness?

Could it be that the qualities of knowing I described before are intrinsic in the feminine?

Is reality itself seeking to restore balance by pushing the feminine principle into the foreground?

 

Let us examine shortly the different aspects the feminine principle represents and see if there is some truth to this daring hypothesis….

 

An important source of knowledge about the feminine perspective is what women experience (and certainly where women feel they don’t fit into what their culture expects them to experience).

Again, a shift in perspective was necessary to realize that the separate-self model traditional psychology uses, describes what men experience and thus is a masculine model.

Coming from this premise the women of the Stone Center[5] developed a model that reflects what women experience: the self-in-relation model.

 

In their view there is a need for a new sense of self that takes into account what is happening between people. This self is inseparable from the dynamic interaction that results from attending to and responding to others and their feeling.

The self-in-relation theory suggests that self develops in the context of relationships and emphasizes a two-way interaction between self and environment. It recognizes self as a process, an ongoing evolutionary development with an emphasis on assimilation, growth and change.

This is definitely a different, feminine perspective, with a much more subjective relationship to reality. It points to qualities of knowledge such as the flexibility to see reality as an ongoing process and the willingness to accept that everything is connected and interrelated.

In fact all qualities I mentioned are prominently present in the self-in-relation (feminine) perspective.

 

Whereas the self-in-relation model emphasizes our connectedness to others beyond our personal realm as a source of meaning, defining humans as relational beings, the transpersonal perspective focuses on our connectedness, as spiritual beings, to the larger framework of a deeper spiritual reality.

Most importantly the self-in-relation model shows us the feminine principle that recognizes that separation is an illusion and that growth and development evolves through stages of ever-increasing levels of awareness and consciousness of the underlying connection, and ultimately the unity of all.

 

Another source of knowledge of the feminine perspective are myths.

Clarissa Pinkola Estés[6] collected a whole book worth of stories and myths about the archetype of the Wild Women.

In her extensive “psycho-archeological” explorations into the ruins of the female underworld, she writes about the feminine instinctive nature. Her Feminine shares certain psychic characteristics with healthy wolves: keen sensing, playful spirit and a heightened capacity for devotion. They are relational by nature, inquiring and possessed of great endurance and strength. They are deeply intuitive, intensely concerned with their young, their mates and their pack. They are experienced in adapting to constantly changing circumstances; they are fiercely stalwart and very brave.

Pinkola Estés assigns these qualities to her Wild Women archetype.

 

This feminine perspective/way of relating to reality, manifests in a compassionate commitment to life and nature. It shows up in instinctive knowing and visionary creativity where life engages us in challenging situations. It adapts to and transforms, listens and guides, watches and inspires….

 

Working on these themes I notice the emergent feminine everywhere. Not only in the feminist/feminine/goddess movements, but also in culture (movies, music, art, fashion), politics (even the Arab summit in Tunis[7] decided to give their women more power) and in the way we organize our lives in general.

 

In my world (Holland, Europe) I see more openness, more flexibility and more willingness to trust “the process”. People are really trying to be more compassionate and tolerant.

We have a long way to go, but at least we seem to have stopped running (blindly) and at least some of us are committed to exploring new paths to follow.

 

 

And.. it seems apparent that the missing Feminine has her ways of (re)claiming her place in our consciousness. Jung was probably right when he said:

 “Whatever is not brought to consciousness, comes to us as fate”.

 



[1] Brant Cortright, Psychotherapy and Spirit, 1997

[2] I do not suggest that this was a direct move into a religious worldview, but I think that it is a major shift in consciousness when we realize that man is not omniscient or omnipotent or any sense “the master of the universe”.

 

[3] As I just studied the psychology of men and women in TC510 with Shelley Takei (and will go on to do so in my next course TC520), I refer to my essays on the subjects of 1. comparing feminine psychology with traditional and transpersonal psychology, 2. comparing the feminine experience with the masculine experience 3. the woundedness, grieving and healing that is going on as a result of the repression of the feminine principles and also  4. recognizing the importance to integrate the feminine ways of relating to the world into our primarily masculine ways. 

[4] Lyn Cowan, Dismantling the Animus, 1993/2000

[5] Women’s growth in connection, Stone Center (Wellesley Centers for Women), 1991

[6] Women Who Run With the Wolves, Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype, Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Ph.D., 1992

[7]May 2004